Let me begin by congratulating you for your
website. The material presented there should be recommended reading for
all young people.
As a parent I feel my
position as a guide for my son and daughter is extremely difficult with
the attitudes that seem to be prevalent in society. My attitude is that
at this time I am responsible for these young people, halfway between
childhood and adulthood. My son is 17 and my daughter is 15.
Let me list the prevalent
attitudes I am talking about to more precisely define my position.
1. The wide acceptance of
Pre marital relations are
not considered to be worth mentioning or in any way objectionable by the
majority of people. My view is that members of the opposite sex may date
after a certain level of maturity is achieved but there should be rules.
The person going out on a date with your teen and also their parents
should be known to you. There should be a strict curfew. The teens
should spend their time in a public place. Any sort of physical contact
beyond handholding should not take place. The purpose of the date should
be for the teens to get to know each other, enjoy friendship and
company, or perhaps even fall in love.
2. The wide acceptance of
immodest clothing and behavior.
I am frankly horrified at
the way some young people deign to dress these days. They are tempting
themselves and others to commit unacceptable acts. A child should be
taught from an early age that any immodest dress or nudity should only
take place when alone or in the presence of a parent. Later in the
presence of a spouse. There should be no exceptions to this. The
clothing now available, skimpy bikinis, et cetera means parents
need to keep their eyes open and see that their youngsters understand
what is and what is not acceptable.
3. Non-acceptance of corporal
The common attitude these
days seems to be that teenagers are for some reason not to be guided
through corporal discipline. As long as my children live under my roof I
see it as my obligation and responsibility to discipline them. Their
failure is my failure.
4. Acceptance of sexual
The majority these days
seems to think teen self-abuse is perfectly normal and acceptable. They
think unmarried men and women have some need for such gratification. I
am thankful for the young man who has written to this site about the sin
of Onan and makes it clear there are many who understand that any form
of sex that precludes procreation is simply not acceptable. In addition
to this a masturbatory sex act can be considered to be a homosexual sex
5. The notion that modern day
teens need to have total privacy.
My question is, privacy
to do what??? In our home the opposite policy is in force. We have house
rules such as open door policies that preclude privacy and allow me and
their mother to monitor their behavior. How else can we take
responsibility if we have no idea what they are doing?
If any readers are in a
similar position to me and wish to discuss aspects of this letter, feel
free to contact me. I have to admit that my household is not perfect any
more than others are. My son does have difficulties but we are working
to help him.
you wish to contact myself, my son, or my
daughter for any sort of moral and wholesome discussion, please write to
firstname.lastname@example.org. I will pass any moral letter addressed to
my son or daughter on to them.
Bless you all!