Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly,
righteously, and godly, in this present world . . . Titus
The day I met the man
who would be my husband, he had just returned from Florida where he and
the rest of the varsity tennis team had spent spring break, practicing endlessly. His
white teeth contrasted sharply with the deep tan and his dark hair. His nose was peeling
just a bit as he began to flirt with me. That profile of his cheery countenance is etched
in my mind forever.
On my wedding day and at my request, his tan was there to
contrast with the clean white shirt and bow tie we had chosen for him to wear under his
long, black tails. He was the man of my dreams, and this day was a fairy tale come true.
And me? I wore a white hand-beaded dress with a nine-foot train and a sequined tiara veil.
I marched across fresh rose petals as violinists, stretched along both sides of the
sanctuary, played the wedding march. Together, we faced our guests so that they could see
the joy on our faces as we exchanged vows. The kiss was sweet and simple ending with a
knowing glance. There would be more time for tenderness that night.
At the reception, guests munched on hors doeuvres as an
orchestra played in the background, pausing only for the announcement, Ladies and
Gentlemen, our bride and groom have arrived. I present for the first time in public Mr.
and Mrs... I was a Mrs! Applause filled the room as the strains from the orchestra
ushered us to our head table. I waltzed beautifully with my father who returned a bow to
my groom a few minutes into the waltz. We succeeded in royally ruining the graceful
presence my father had established, but it didnt matter. We were the prince and
princess of the ball, and anything we did would charm the guests.
Hours later, the princess found herself tightly locked in the
bathroom of a honeymoon suite trying to decide how to make her grand entrance. (If I had
it to do over again, I would claim the room for myself and lock him in the bathroom
to decide when and how to enter!) Was it too soon for the lacy negligee? Were the full
length satin pjs too modest for tonight? Should I put my hair up? Will it seem too
vain to freshen my make-up? We had not discussed lights...would they be on or off when I
came out? In the end, I opted for the modesty and the vanity. (And hoped the lights would
But when my eyes met my husbands deep blue ones...full of compassion and true
love...the nervousness was replaced with a knowing. We had waited. We had made it through
the maze of temptation and now a warm and comforting Presence was with us assuring us that
this covenant into which we were about to enter would be blessed.
And the blessing was more than we had hoped for.
The Decision to Wait
How did we make it? God knows that I was not perfect. How did I
wait for the wonderful gift of being one with a man I so tenderly loved? Well, its a
wonderful, romantic story that includes moments of critical decisions
some I am proud
of and some I wish I had made differently. I am going to share it all with you. It
includes seven special secrets that gave me the strength to make it through a lot of
Saying no to worldly
It all started with the truth of Titus 2:12-13. Those verses say
that Gods grace does not automatically keep us from worldly passions. In all of your
love for God, you could be blind-sided by worldly passions. When I realized how difficult
the path of purity can be, I stood before God and I said, OK, teach me to say no. I
know these worldly passions exist, but I know the only way I will be able to say NO is if
you teach me! And from that moment on, God worked in me and gave me a resolve that I
did not even know that I had within me and the path
and the waiting
easier. The difference was that now I had placed myself in Gods presence to be
taught how to say no. Gods grace taught me to say no to worldly passions.
If you didn't go to class, your teacher could not fill you with
all of the knowledge that he or she had to share. The God of the universe can't teach you
either, unless you place yourself in His presence. I have been praying for you. I want so
desperately for you to stand before God and to request for Him to teach you to say no to
worldly passions so that you can live a self-controlled, godly, upright life.
You cannot attain purity all on your own.
I cannot unveil to you some formula of protection.
Your parents cannot share with you something that will keep you
Only God can do that!
Wont you stop right now and ask Him to teach you as you
read this book to say no to worldly passions?
Write a journal to God
Now, here is the most important part of this book. You need a
journal or notebook to really make this book change your life. You see, its not what
I write that is important and can protect your purity. It is what you write that will
knock Satan between the eyes.
Get out your journal and write a letter to God. Explain to Him where you are in your
struggle to stand pure before Him. It could be any area of your lifesexuality,
substance abuse, language, angeranything that is causing heartache in your life.
Give each part of your history over to Him. Tell Him you are sorry if you have failed.
Pray that He will keep you shielded from worldly passions. And specifically request Him to
be your teacher while you are reading this book.
Go ahead. Write!
-- Bob and Dannah have been married for ten years. This
excerpt is chapter one of her book. Dannah's website is www.purefreedom.org
Copyright 1999 Dannah Gresh. All